Yesterday was Ava’s 24th birthday. I would have been so happy to have spent some time with her but she didn’t return my emails or phone calls so I spent the day by myself, as usual. I'm not sure that she's still alive since it's been at least six months that I called her and she spoke a few words and then hung up on me. Is this any way to treat a mother? The circle she spends time with and her new husband must think so or she wouldn't treat me this way. What causes a daughter to turn on her mother this way? "It’s not about you, it’s about her," as my younger daughter keeps reminding me.
As luck would have it, I found a message in my newspaper yesterday giving me a glimmer of hope:
"Why must we wait until our daughters are adults? Why can’t the divorce laws be enforced at the time of divorce? In my case, I was given full custody of my youngest by Children’s Aid and then, at the time of divorce, our attorneys decided on joint custody. They wouldn’t have it any other way. What gave them this right? Shortly afterwards the alienation began by my ex-husband, his lady he had waiting in the wings and my ex-in-laws. Seven years have passed and I’ve been slandered to the point of no return and I’M THEIR MOTHER! How did this happen to me? The lawyers made sure of it and so did the community we lived in."