There has been quite a bit of coverage in the media on a story about a woman from Somalia who travelled to Nairobi, Kenya, without her son, and was reported to the authorities there by The Canadian High Commission because they thought her passport was bogus. The Toronto Star was able to bring her safely home to Toronto through their contacts. Here’s the story:

~ The Homecoming ~

Well, I don’t have a passport, but if the High Commission were to see my drivers’ license and health card they’d put me in front of a firing squad because it just isn’t me in those photo ID’s.

The fact that this mother was separated from her son and jailed in Nairobi because of the actions of The Canadian High Commissions doesn’t surprise me. I was born in Canada, I’ve lived here all my life and have done very little travelling, but the authorities have done nothing to help me reunite with my children, and, although I promote The Toronto Star on my blogs, it hasn’t helped me to rectify the situation at all.

I wonder if this mother is divorced? Could it be that “The Curse of the Divorce Lawyer” travels with us wherever we go and it was just her turn to be jailed, as so many parents from divorced marriages are for what seems to be no reason whatsoever? I haven’t reached that phase yet but I have an inkling that my ex-husband has. No matter what actions I take there is no family reunion on the horizon.

Is it because I’m white? Is it because I’m not an immigrant? Is it because I don’t have any family members or supporters rallying for me? Why does Canada not have any legislation in place for parents to keep bonds with their children instead of promoting the “Born Free” philosophy?

Born Free

The Movie

There are so many children from divorced homes who end up homeless and living in hostels in the City of Toronto and their parents end up homeless, living in hostels and in basement apartments as well. How do I go about organizing a rally to bring this matter to the attention of our authorities? So far my actions, letters and emails have gotten some media attention but there is no one addressing the issues.

Ava's Sister's Vacation

This morning I sent an email to the Premier's Office to bring him up-to-date about my youngest daughter's, Monica's, vacation. This may turn out to be a "Gang Bang" of a holiday but it's none of my business:

"The last email I sent you earned me a phone call from an OPP Officer. I wish I had asked for his name and a phone number where I could file reports instead of burdening your Office and filing TIPS.

I have an update for you now:

Last night I received a phone call from my younger daughter, Monica, to remind me that she is going out of town for two weeks so I won’t hear from her. She wouldn’t give me any details even though I pumped her for information. Monica suffered from a pediatric stroke when she was ten and is now deaf except for the cochlear implant. She was originally diagnosed with a terminal illness but it’s been downgraded to a degenerative illness. Don’t get me wrong, Monica is a sweet, lovely girl and I love her dearly, but she is obligated to never to give me any information. These are the instructions from the people of the Newmarket area who she associates with. Monica also has instructions never to see me again but she can speak with me on the phone for a few minutes a day.

Monica was able to tell me that she is going to the USA with friends for two weeks and I will not be able to get in touch with her. She can’t tell me where she will be or her friend’s names and she can’t call me even though I asked her to call me collect. Her father and her sister know where she will be but I don’t have to know. This has happened several times in the past seven years and I have no one to report it to.

How can it be that people can take my daughter across the border and convince her that her mother should have no knowledge of where she is? In my eyes this is an abduction and this behavior is driving me to insanity and sometimes even thoughts of suicide. As far as the authorities are concerned I should be in under psychiatric care. Can your Office tell me who to get in touch with to file a report? The Toronto Police Force doesn't take reports of this nature and lawyers in Ontario are Mother Fuckers, Father Fuckers and Child Fuckers and can offer no help even though they are the ones who set me up for this hell. Could the reason be that I didn’t provide my sexual services to my divorce lawyer even though he offered to take me to higher ground? Yes, that would be it.

Thank you."

October 12, 2009 - An Update

Well, some time has passed and I have not had a reply to this e-mail that I sent to the Premier's Office.  I wonder if he realizes that by not addressing these divorce related matters that are so common in Ontario he is actually supporting and encouraging this behaviour.  If there's no one in our social structure to "Nip it in the Butt" and police it, then we can expect that it will continue indefinitely since those who participate in this ring know they can get away with it.  Is this what our Provincial and Federal Government want?  That all our children separate from their parents and that parents are left to live out our lives and die alone and destitute?

Last week I wrote a somewhat nasty email to the Premier’s Office and I included a link to this blog. The next day I received a follow-up phone call from the OPP. The email was not threatening in any way but the Premier’s Office was concerned about the closing paragraph:

“I’ve fallen from a middle class housewife with two beautiful children to a welfare case, divorced and living in isolation in the seven year period that you have been Premier. The next step, of course, is suicide unless those people who have called hits on me are able to follow through, either way is just fine with me. This would make it the end of the Ontario Divorce Cycle for me.”

The Premier’s Office was concerned that I was truly suicidal and the OPP Officer was following up wondering if I was contemplating suicide. I explained that, yes, it seems to be the next step in this “Curse of the Divorce Lawyer” deal in Ontario, not that it’s my own thoughts, but, rather, the way the lawyers set it up.

I asked him how many people the Police Force finds living alone in basement apartments (and apartments) who have committed suicide after falling to the welfare rolls and have no next of kin? Someone may have heard that yes, they were married once and had children but no one knows their names or where to find them. It happens often.

We had a short conversation, he said he wished he could say something that would make things better for me and I thanked him for his kind words.

I wonder where this path will take me?

Here's the email I sent to the Premier's Office:

I would like to bring to your attention the number of child abductions in Ontario over the past few months, in case your Office has not been keeping track. I’m sure I’ve missed several since they are not all abductions are reported by the media. Is there a “Code of Silence” pertaining to these matters?

http://avawhereareyou.blogspot.com/2009/04/another-missing-child-april-9-2009-i.html#links

If your Office has the time, please take a look at the entire blog:

http://avawhereareyou.blogspot.com/

I did send a link to my original blog to your Office over two years ago. Although none of my issues were addressed by your staff, there has been quite a bit of media attention since I also sent the link to them.

My family is a victim of Ontario’s Divorce Courts and I have lost my children over the ordeal, as do so many parents who go through divorce. I have been filing reports for seven years to the authorities and I’ve been dealing with lawyers trying to resolve issues but at this time I must succumb and leave it behind. “The System” has left me living in isolation, or rather solitary confinement, my family members would not offer any help, whatsoever, to help me pull through and I’m left with no next of kin since my children have abandoned me and my parents have both passed away.

My EI will run out in about a month and I’m prepared to file for welfare since seven years of job hunting has turned out fruitless and I’ve been blackballed, not to mention what all this has done to my self esteem, just as my divorce lawyer set it up.

Lawyers in Ontario are Mother Fuckers, Father Fuckers and Child Fuckers. Ontario is Fascist and has been since the time my parents set foot on this soil in the early 1950’s. I’m not sure what Governments that are run by cult rings are called but Ontario also falls into this category.

Mr. McGuinty, the Ontario Police Forces are defunct and the employees of Ontario’s Social Services’ area of expertise is sitting on their asses and just what is the purpose of the MPP’s?

I’ve fallen from a middle class housewife with two beautiful children to a welfare case, divorced and living in isolation in the seven year period that you have been Premier. The next step, of course, is suicide, unless those people who have called hits on me are able to follow through, either way is just fine with me. This would make it the end of the Ontario Divorce Cycle for me.

Some time has passed and I wonder if my daughters have any memories of me, their mother, and the years we spent together while I was at home raising them. It’s hard to believe that they can cast off their mother so easily and leave me behind. I understand it is quite common in circles of divorced couples and cult rings to use clorophorm to subdue the children to keep them in a state of confusion until the children accept the new situation. Apparently it causes memory loss and makes the abduction much easier to pull off and they continue to clorophorm them every time their memory kicks in again. This would make the brainwashing easier and all the lies they feed our children easier to absorb. It’s hard to believe what ex-spouses and stepparents do to our children to make sure the divorce goes off without a hitch and things land in their court.

Well, it may be one of my daughters or myself in ~ this woman’s shoes ~ next since it seems that’s just the way things go where women are concerned. I came to Toronto so I could have freedom of speech but, what I didn’t realize, was that I can say whatever I want because no one is listening or paying any attention. It’s been seven years that I’ve been reporting my ordeal to the authorities and the legal system but things just keep getting progressively worse. It’s been over a year that I haven’t seen my youngest daughter and about three that I haven’t seen my oldest. This cult ring just won’t get it’s hooks off of us and you can believe they’ll do whatever they want since the worst of them are in the legal system and the rest own those “B.A’s”. They curse you, they hex you, they blackball you, they take your children with them and brain wash them – it’s all part of the “Game”. Whatever it takes to destroy honest, law abiding people. It’s what “Game Players” do.

Do you have children or family members who are missing or who have not been keeping in touch?

This story may be the ending to their life story as well.

~ William "Lefty" Van Koughnet ~

~ A Search for Homeless Military Vets ~

Mother’s Day

I spent this Mother’s Day alone, again. My younger daughter called to wish me Happy Mother’s Day last night but I haven’t heard from Ava. My younger daughter didn’t want to visit me today even though I offered to pick her up. Well, of course I can’t pick her up because I don’t know her address and I can’t go to the authorities because as far as they’re concerned it’s none of my business where either of my daughters are. When I ask my daughter “Why?” I get the usual answer, “It’s not about you, it’s about me.” I wonder who fed them that line to say to their mother?

Not seeing my daughters on special occasions has been going on now for seven years. It’s my ex-husband and his family’s way of making sure I understand I’m no one important. Speaking to lawyers so far has gotten me nowhere. I get the same reply every time, “Give it up!” They have no intention of fighting this for me because they don’t have to. Now that my daughters are both over eighteen I don’t see them at all. The legal profession made sure of it.

I remember when my daughters were in Grade 3 in elementary school and they were tested for giftedness and I was told in both cases that they were borderline gifted. Actually, they were both gifted but since neither parent had a University degree the teachers downgrade it to “Borderline Gifted”. Now that some time has passed and our destinies have gone to pot, I wonder what good is all this giftedness? I’m convinced that since the school system identifies these gifted children through testing, the school staff makes sure they lose their giftedness before they can cash in on it. My daughters were gifted once, not any more. These things are genetic so their mother must have also been gifted once, not any more. After all, for who THEY are, their children are the best suited for giftedness and why don’t they see just what they can do about this? As if they can, somehow, supernaturally, steal my children’s gifts and transfer these gifts to their children? Well, why stop at one lifetime? Why don’t they just take all our gifts and keep them for themselves for all eternity? When I stop to think about it, knowing how insane these higher learners are, once they’ve dealt with everyone who does not own a B.A., I’m sure they’ll turn on each other to continue to improve upon themselves, and, when it comes right down to it, I’m sure they’ll wonder if their children REALLY deserve these gifts and they’ll decide to just keep all this giftedness for themselves!

And so, yet another important day on the calendar has passed without a visit from my daughters and that’s another blow to my psyche and self esteem. Looks like their scheme is going as planned. One more nail in my coffin and it won’t be long before they bury me and find a new victim to practice their craft on. 

Trying to keep in touch ... ...

I sent another email to Ava. I check Facebook periodically (although neither Ava or Mike will accept me as a "Friend") just to check the pictures and this time Mike & Ava are holding two newborns. I wondered if they were related to me?

Hi Ava,

How are things? I've been meaning to ask, since I found Mike on Facebook awhile ago, why does he shave his head bald? Every time I see someone with their head shaven it reminds me of that Orthodox Jewish thing. Remember that bible story of ~ Samson and Deliliah ~? And then there's that Orthodox Jewish tradition of the mother-in-law shaving the daughter-in-law's head bald and trimming her fingernails and toenails very close to the skin, until it bleeds, just before the wedding. Imagine all those Orthodox Jewish women are actually wearing wigs on their wedding day! Do you believe it? I heard it straight from the horses mouth.

Whose kids are those in the picture I attached? I hope I didn't miss the news that I'm a grandmother?

Mike tells me he's an orphan. Well, you picked that one right. You can't imagine all the trouble those in-laws cause.

... ...

Keep in touch!

Love,

MOM

Well, it's been several days now and there's been no reply. What else can a Mother do?

Is Canada on a Killing Spree?

~ Another Missing Child ~

(April 9, 2009)

~ Tori Stafford ~

~ Thursday, May 21st, 2009 ~

(This whole ordeal reeks of the Divorce Lawyers Racket, "The Curse of the Divorce Lawyer".)

~ Another That Disappeared Two Weeks Ago ~

~ This One They Found on the Other Side of the Country ~

~ It was a Parental Abduction ~

~ A 17 Year Old Girl Missing ~

~ Another Reason to Keep our Children Home ~

~ A Child Abduction with a Payoff ~

~ Abducted into Prostitution ~

~ A Member of the Military Reserve Missing ~

~ Shane Fair - An Update ~

~ Another Missing Teen ~

~ Mason MacPhail - An Update ~

~ An Amber Alert - A Parental Abduction ~

~ Remains of a 19 Year Old Found ~

~ MISSING - Is This Her & Is She Being Held Against Her Will? ~

~ Missing Woman Found Slain in Car ~

~ 16 Year Old Autistic Boy Missing ~

~ Three Exchange Students Missing ~

~ Girl New to Canada Missing ~


~ Woman, 20, Missing Since Sunday ~


~ Human Remains Found ~


~ Woman's Body Found ~


~ 10 Month Old Missing & Found ~


~ Online Romance Leads to Abduction ~


~ Missing Bellville Woman ~


~ Accused of Killing Two Women ~


~ Missing for a Month ~


~ Missing 22 Year Old ~


~ Found! A Body in a Barrel ~


~ Missing Woman's Body Found in Caledon ~

I wonder where my children are?

Does it make a difference to a parent how old their child is if that child goes missing? No! It does make a difference to the law enforcement authorities. Parents lose their right to know where their children are after the child has reached the age of eighteen. The law has decided that these children are not worth launching a search to find them and, if found, the parent does not have the right to know where they are.

For that matter, any one who is over eighteen and is abducted does not have the right to be found. Are you over eighteen? If you are abducted would you want the authorities to launch a search to find you? If you live in Toronto you're out of luck. You're at the mercy of your abductors.

~ GONE BUT NOT FORGOTTEN ~

~ A March for Missing, Murdered Women ~

~When getting close to nature 

makes you regret the day you stepped foot out of your house.~

How lucky Christina's  family is to have the support of their friends, family and community.  I bet not many of them have University degrees since it’s a trend these days for higher learners to turn a blind eye and a deaf ear.

~ Stefanie Rengel ~

A young girl involved in a love triangle that ended with her murder.

Our children are involved in these types of situations before they reach that magic age of eighteen when everything they do is none of their parents business thanks to legislation that was implemented giving eighteen year olds all the rights we as parents never had at their age and we still don't have. What gives society the right to strip parents of their heartfelt devotion and commitment to their children and vice versa? Could it be that we live in an age where being gay, single and childless is the norm and so when these people who are gay, single and childless reach the upper levels of our society through their careers, they make decisions and changes to our lifestyle that they are not qualified to make?

It's time parents take a stand for our rights for the sake of the safety of our children.

~ Stephanie's Mother ~

Yesterday was Ava’s 24^th birthday.  I would have been so happy to have spent some time with her but she didn’t return my emails or phone calls so I spent the day by myself, as usual.  I'm not sure that she's still alive since it's been at least six months that I called her and she spoke a few words and then hung up on me. Is this any way to treat a mother?  The circle she spends time with and her new husband must think so or she wouldn't treat me this way.  What causes a daughter to turn on her mother this way? "It’s not about you, it’s about her,"  as my younger daughter keeps reminding me.

As luck would have it, I found a message in my newspaper yesterday giving me a glimmer of hope:

~ RECONNECT WHEN DAUGHTERS ARE ADULTS ~

"Why must we wait until our daughters are adults?  Why can’t the divorce laws be enforced at the time of divorce?  In my case, I was given full custody of my youngest by Children’s Aid and then, at the time of divorce, our attorneys decided on joint custody.  They wouldn’t have it any other way.  What gave them this right?  Shortly afterwards the alienation began by my ex-husband, his lady he had waiting in the wings and my ex-in-laws.  Seven years have passed and I’ve been slandered to the point of no return and I’M THEIR MOTHER!  How did this happen to me?  The lawyers made sure of it and so did the community we lived in."

This must be ~ "The Curse of the Divorce Lawyer".~  Once divorced you plummet to the bottom of the heap and never,  ever get back on your feet as we've all seen happen time and time again.

Canada being so Multicultural, it’s hard to accept that there are still communities where Protestants wait for Roman Catholics to move into the neighborhood for the sole purpose of destroying them and, if you find yourself in one of these communities, the Courthouse is the killing field.  In 2002, in Aurora/Newmarket, Ontario, Catholics were still victims of persecution by Protestants.  To the death or until we change our religion and denounce our Catholic faith. That being said, they’ve taken my children with them and they are no longer part of the faith they were born into and received their sacraments in.  It’s hard to believe what these Christians do to other Christians? Mother’s have no say in the matter as they’re ready to pounce on our children as soon as they reach the age of majority. The Authorities don’t care and the Protestants are celebrating their victory.  They compete with Jews.  

What kind of a Human Rights Code is this?

~ A Letter to My City Councillor 

Re:  Homeless Youth ~

Update - April 23, 2009

My City Councillor decided to forward my letter to my MPP's Office and shortly afterwards I was contacted to arrange an appointment to speak with him.  The meeting was short but he decided to take this to higher ground.  

There was so much more that I would have liked to bring to his attention, as per my blogs, but I didn't have the opportunity.  I really wanted to tell him I've been looking for full time work for six years but all I could find was temp assignments and that I'm now on EI because the situation has gotten worse and that if things don't improve by the time my EI claim expires I will apply for welfare.  I owe it all to York Region Children's Aid Society, the Newmarket Courthouse, the lawyers who dug my grave and the rest of the authorities who did their part. This is what happens to mothers who keep their children home from school with terminal illnesses in Aurora/Newmarket.

Well, the original letter was sent on February 1st, 2009, and almost three months have passed without the situation changing.  Does a City Councillor or an MPP have enough authority to pick up the phone and tell the Police Department to follow up and make sure I connect with my daughters?

May 26, 2009 - A Step Forward in the Ontario Legislature:

~ Amber Alerts ~

! AN EMAIL FROM AVA WITH A NEW EMAIL ADDRESS TO REFLECT HER NEW MARRIED NAME.

Mom,

I'm alive. I don't get to check my e-mail everyday because I'm a little busy.

I just want you to know that I am the one telling myself to stay away from you. No one else. Whoever 'they' are, have had no influence on me or my choices in life.

I'm not trying to prove anything, I'm just trying to live my life.

Please get some help.

Ava

Now, I’m going to sit and stew to find just the right words to answer this one.

I decided to ask my younger daughter for her point of view and it went something like this.

Mother

Younger Daughter

What does Ava want from me?

When are you going to learn that you can’t control our lives?

But, we’ve barely seen each other for six years. Not even holidays and birthdays.

You can’t tell us what to do anymore.

But, I haven’t been telling you what to do for six years.

You can’t treat Dad like this.

I haven’t seen him in six years. He has a restraining order on me. He’s all in the past. I don’t see him, I don’t talk to him, I don’t think about him. What for? He’s not my husband anymore! As a matter of fact, I can pack my bags and move anywhere in Canada and never, ever, see him, hear him or think about him again.

Where will you go?

Wherever I want to go! Since I can’t find a job here and I’ll probably have to sell my condo anyway. Oh, but I’m thinking of renting the spare bedroom since I have two full bathrooms I think I can charge enough money to keep the condo.

Who will you rent to?

Well, I won’t rent to anyone who isn’t recommended. Do you know anyone who wants to rent a room? Maybe you can ask around?

I’ll think about it.

Actually, I’ve been reorganizing and I came across some things I forgot I had, his grandmother's rosary, a few pieces of jewelry, and I want to give them back. I’ve already asked Ava what she thought I should do but she hasn’t replied. What do you think I should do? Can you tell me where to ship the stuff?

I don’t know. I’ll ask Dad.

So, I sat and stewed for a day ... or .... two ... and then ... I found my answer!

And so Ava,

~ Here's My Answer To You ~

Love,

MOM

Several months have passed and I threw the items in the garbage, just as my daughters asked me to. Having them in my possession was depressing me and, although they may have been worth something to my ex-sister-in-law and her children, they meant absolutely nothing to my daughters and I.

~ This is Divorce ~

~ Canadian Style ~

And Then Comes

~ A Child Custody Battle ~

`

~ 54 Trips to Court and Over $200,000 Later ~

What's more corrupt our legal system, our justice system or our policing system?

Together they do a fine job of destroying their Countrymen!

Several Days Pass and Ava Decides to Reply ... ...

Ava's Email:

You are willing to speak to some people who can help you and help our relationship?

I Replied:

You seem to think I need help. In what area? You forget that I'm an adult and can choose my path in life and I'm sure that's what any counseling will tell you.

`

You think I can't tell anyone how to live their lives, well, no one can tell me how to live my life either. I'm surrounded by people who believe they can control me by insisting I give them the upper hand and, therefore, I'll do everything they tell me to do, including yourself. I'm no one important, you say! I deserve to be treated like an impisil and expected to grovel at every one's feet?

`

I keep telling you and Monica that I don't have to ... and I have no intention of ... being "nice" to that ex-husband of mine. He's all in my past and if I never see him again, I deserve it! What does this have to do with my relationship with my children?

`

I doubt I'll ever see my relatives again either. With family like this who needs enemies?

`

Who's controlling who here? You, them, everyone but me. I want to know where I can reach my children and I want to visit with them occasionally. Is this too much for a mother to ask? If you want to meet at counseling, that's fine as long as you foot the bill because technically, I'm unemployed.

`

Love,

`

MOM

Ava Decides to Get in Touch with Mom

Hi Mom,

I'm sorry you were alone on Christmas.

You can keep my confirmation cross, even though you and Dad raised me Catholic, I haven't been a practicing Catholic since high school. I'm sorry if this disappoints you.

Monica had a good birthday, she was up north at a resort on Lake Of Bays with us for the weekend. We celebrated her birthday on the 17th, and then on the 18th Mike and I got married.

I'm sorry I didn't invite you, but you and I have a lot of things we need to work out before we can have a normal, healthy relationship, and I didn't feel that I could have you at my wedding.

I think that there are people who can help us, would you be willing to speak with them?

Ava

AND WHAT DID I REPLY:

Oh, Ava,

`

Since it's come to this, why not! There's nothing left.

`

Love,

`

MOM

`

Well, this is a milestone! Going on a year of unanswered emails and six months of unanswered phone calls my little one has decided to reply. What ingratitude from a child to treat a parent in such a way as this. Of course, I'm willing to go to therapy ~ at her cost, of course.

`

This "Nice, Nice" world she lives in has her walking around convinced she's more important than her mother and probably that she's the most important person in the world. Why, I'm sure everyone she associates with tells her I don't deserve her. What would provoke a child to break her mother's heart this way? Is this masocistic behaviour? If this child of mine isn't brainwashed then what's her problem?

`

Stay tuned for more updates ... ... ...

I live in a world "where black is white and white is black

and good is evil and evil is … … "

`

~ Not A Criminal Offense ~
`

How strange for a man like this to have these thoughts in his letter.

`

~ Letter From Frost To His Players (2000) ~

`
And I still don’t know where my daughters are!

`

`

October is Wedding Month for Ava

Another young boy, ~ Brandon Crisp ~, went missing in Barrie after a fight with his parents. The entire Community joined forces in the search for Brandon and offered their support to his parents. They’re probably just ordinary people who want to lend a helping hand, after all, it could be their child who goes missing next or it could be your's. Mine’s already spoken for.

~ An Update ~

I come from a family of scholars and professionals. When my daughter, Ava, left for England and several years ago upon her return I haven’t seen her, they were quick to remark, “I guess you have it coming!” “You must deserve it!” “You can’t make them like their mother.” They just sneer every time they hear my name. Just to make me understand that they are my superiors and that since I don’t have a University degree I’m no one important, and by the way, since when do people without University degrees deserve to live? Why, we’re not worth the food we eat.

Of course, Ava’s over 18 and so the Police don’t even want to take a missing person report. The came begrudgingly, but they did come to take the report. People don’t matter at all once they’re over 18. Having children over 18 doesn’t stop making you a parent nor does it stop you from worrying about them night and day. Then, when the Police find our over 18 year old children, they don’t tell us where they are. Who do I think I am wasting their time looking for my kid who’s hiding God knows where (and so do they {know where she is} ~ but not me)? Well, I think I'm a "Person" (in the eyes of the law) and so is my daughter and I think we are people who THEY are being paid to "Serve and Protect". Isn't that what it says on their cruisers?

To think that women have children and raise them with love & TLC and then anyone who is able to sway them their way can take them and keep them as far as the authorities are concerned and keep in mind I've contacted the Police, both Federal & Provincial Governments and the Church. Nothing they can do about it. On the most part they're taken into lives of promiscuity as is so in this case. I can remember when they tried this on me but my parents intervened and were successful in keeping me out of their hands. History repeats itself and now it's both my children who have been abducted. "Their mother doesn't understand these things. It's their place." Wanna make a bet! And I've been warned,

~"I better shut up!" ~

It’s October now and last I heard this was wedding month for Ava. I have no invitation because I’m not invited. It was an act of God that I found her phone number but now that I have my messages go into voice mail and remain unanswered.

Does this scenario sound familiar? How many divorced parents do you know who are in the same shoes? It comes with the territory. This is some racket the divorce lawyers have first running us into bankruptcy, then destroying our children and all the while having us blackballed so we never have jobs or a penny in our pockets.

I have a daughter who is 

"~Missing By Choice".~

Here's someone who had a father who was

  ~ "Missing By Choice". ~

Abandoning your children is a criminal offense unless we call it "Missing by Choice".

Isn't abandoning your parents a criminal offense as well? Could this be just a small part of a much bigger picture and no one has realized it yet? Being "Missing by Choice' makes you an easy target with all the rackets and cult rings operating (and they always have operated). To think of all the trouble that people get into when they go underground!

Are we sure they're "Missing by Choice"? What are they trying to hide from? If they owe money the authorities find them anyway but, there are laws to protect them from being found by family members. In Canada people DO NOT have to be accounted for.

~ How would this be handled in other parts of the world? ~

Leaving Messages But No Reply ... ... ...

Well, I’ve been leaving messages for Ava on her voice mail but she doesn’t reply so I found a way to get in touch with Mike through e-mail because he's on Facebook as well. Mike's e-mail reply said he thinks "she needs some time". I think five years is long enough to be separated from your family.

This is a hex! I can tell!

Just who is casting these hexes? I nominate the lawyers and judges who dealt with my divorce (among others) since they were the most successful in destroying my family and I and the doctors who were supposed to help Monica regain her health but dug her grave instead are fierce competitors. Could this be just another blood deal? Just who is pulling all the strings in a higher realm? Who would want to crucify and demise my children and I? As if I have to ask.

If everyone who goes through divorce takes a similar path that I’ve taken, and keep in mind that 10 out of 10 marriages end up in divorce in Canada, wouldn’t this troll the entire country? Then we wonder why our economy is going right down the tubes.

Most high school graduates go on to higher learning now compared to twenty years ago which means so many more lawyers, judges, doctors, etc., etc, than we ever had before. Well, these people need something to do so all of a sudden our divorce rates soar just so these lawyers can have something to do. We all have to dig deeper and deeper into our pockets to pull out every last penny to pay these higher learners who will tell you themselves that they deserve all the money more than we poor souls without a degrees. As far as higher learners are concerned they deserve all the money in the world. That leaves me on the way to the welfare roles just as they predicted.

If this theory holds true, and I believe it does, where does that leave our doctors? Is this why our cancer, heart & stroke, transplant rates etc., etc., are up? These doctors just need something to do so we poor souls without degrees can be their guinea pigs and it’s never ending.

The bottom line is that there is no need for the services of so, so many of these well trained professionals. What a waste of tax dollars!

I hear there’s a trend in the U.S. for teenage girls to get pregnant intentionally and drop out of school. Why not? There’s no jobs for them at this point so if they want to have children why not now? Maybe things will change. They can always go back to school when there’s job opportunities somewhere in the country. If this trend continues it will take us back in time a few decades to a simpler lifestyle and what’s wrong with that?

What does this have to do with finding Ava? It does now that we’ve taken this path and this how it’s come to this point. Ava, with a year of University under her belt is working with Mike at a bar. Monica is now volunteering in the Library and working five days a week, 9 - 5, when she feels well enough to get out of the house, and she's completed high school and one semester of College.  My college diploma completed in 2003 might land me a Reception job but I just might end up on the Government's payroll doing absolutely nothing on the welfare rolls. What a waste of my inheritance that I spent on my education and several thousand dollars I spent to help my daughters with their College/University expenses! A few people told me about my inheritance, "You can't keep it." Looks like it can't be spent on anything productive/constructive either.

The Underwear Affair

Ava, I didn’t connect with you at the Underwear Affair yesterday. I was so hoping to see you again.

I did bump into Monica, Dan and his new girlfriend. We had a lovely chat! It took some coaxing but Dan agreed to grant me a visit with Monica on Sunday. I hope he follows through.

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**(An Update: No, Dan did not follow through. He doesn't have to. The law is always on the man's side so don't bother to go to a lawyer. Your husband and/or ex-husband has the right to drive you to insanity or suicide if he chooses not to kill you instead when he ditches you for someone else. It's an unspoken, unwritten law in Canada. And those kids I suffered to give birth to are everyone's punching bag and so are your's. It's part of the torture of divorce.)**

Since your phone number mysteriously appeared on my cell phone contact list (I’ll never know how that happened) I called you and I actually had a chance to talk to you after all this time. I didn’t see you but, yes, you did see me but avoided me, however, you stopped to talk to Dan. Well, I never! It broke my heart and you still won't tell me your address.

According to Ava the wedding is on and I’m not invited. Where does this guy Mike and his family come from and who do they think they are taking my daughter with them? Do they think I don’t deserve to be a mother?

I think this is an abduction. Remember ~Patty Hearst ~?

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THIS IS A HEX! I CAN TELL!!

Some more time has passed with no word from Ava and that thought keeps coming back to me, “How did this happen to us?”

Well, we did move to that small hick town without realizing there were cult rings operating there and before you know it we all fell into that group of people, “The victims of those cult rings”. I, for one, reported it to the authorities but I don’t know about the others. A lot of good it did me since I realized afterwards that they were in on this deal as well.

So I pack my belongings and moved back to the big city to find a job since there weren’t any in that small hick town, but I made the mistake of not abducting my children and taking them with me to the city because at that time I would have been charged for doing such a thing. Since I didn’t drag them with me against their will, according to everyone concerned including the authorities, I gave up my right of being a mother. The divorce lawyers made sure of it, I'm sure. It's part of the set up in the first place.

How many couples do you know who have divorced and in a short time that passes afterwards lose everything, they can't get back on track and they become blackballed as well? I’m sure this is a set up on the divorce lawyer’s part. Somehow, they make sure of it. By the way, there seems to be a high death rate due to car accidents of divorced, single mothers in that god forsaken land where I lost my children, myself and my will to live. I had been tracking the casualties as they occurred for a few years before I was forced to flee back to the big city. As a domino effect after those mothers die, whom ever they collided with in that accident ends up in jail for causing the death no matter how little evidence there was against them. Try telling me this isn’t a set up! It’s just a game these small town hick cult rings play because they can and they know how and no one questions anything, if they value their lives.

Afterwards, no matter how hard we all try to get back on track, we don’t and neither do our children. We haven’t got a hope in hell. This is a hex! I can tell!

Should I pack it in now and file for welfare? This is something I should give some thought to. What about you, Ava? That’s probably where you’re heading too.

Ava, I Don't Have Your Address so I Attached this to an E-Mail. Why Didn't You Reply?

Ava Where Are You?

After six years of a bitter divorce battle, the kids have grown up and there’s no end insight to the bickering. The ex-husband, who ditched me for another woman, who four years later ditched him, wants me (his first wife) to be nice and put it all behind me and so do the kids, if I know what's good for me. I had it coming. And if I do, maybe he’ll let me see my kids and tell me where they are. Do they care where their mother is? No. My ex-husband and the kids’ neighborhood friends, teachers and counselors engrave this in their brains.

Well, I should take this to a lawyer or police. What for? The kids are over 18 and can do whatever they want. The law makes sure of it. Parents are no one important. Enough to drive a mother to suicide but don’t tell the authorities or they’ll lock you up in the nut house. It’s what they do. Will you ever see your kids again? It’s not their job. Lots more where I come from. I “wasn’t a good mother,” of course, this is understood as far as they're concerned. It must be in all their training manuals because it’s a standard answer along with “can’t make these kids do anything if they don’t want to.” Just to make you feel totally insignificant and make you regret the day you reported it and called them into the picture. Can they make a mother stop complaining? They’ll make sure of it. “Time heals all wounds.” No, not in this case.

I live in a Country where everyone, just everyone gets divorced these days just so that all those lawyers (too many) who would otherwise have nothing to do, can earn “the big bucks” and take us all to the cleaners. When business gets a little slow, they go for another round of broken marriages. The Country’s divorce laws are never enforced but hey, don’t complain, they have the option to lock you up at the snap of a finger and no one will ask them any questions. There's a code of secrecy.

This is Canada? It is entering the 21st century. Is this considered fascism or communism or a dictatorship? Well, we don’t have a dictator leading the Country. Are you sure? It's a time in history where anyone with a University degree, if given the opportunity, can kill you with no questions being asked. Isn’t this abuse of power? No, it’s life in Canada.